Your Guide to Better Sex, Intimacy, & Love From a World-Leading Sex Therapist

In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love. 

If you feel like intimacy with your partner is rare, your desire is low, or that your marriage is even sexless, this conversation is for you. 

Here to deliver the most important sex advice you need to hear is renowned sex therapist and bestselling author, Vanessa Marin.  

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist and a sex therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience helping people have healthier, more satisfying sex lives. She is known for her viral, no-shame, straight-to-the-point advice on how to have the best sex of your life. 

This conversation tackles everything you weren’t taught—and probably aren’t talking about—when it comes to sex. Mel also shares openly about her own sex life, difficulties with intimacy, and speaks openly in a way you’ve never heard before.

Whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, this conversation is going to make you think differently about sex and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, relationship status, or gender. 

You’ll learn:

-The real reason you feel disconnected in your sex life

-The two different types of sex drives and why it matters 

-What to do if you’re on your way to a dry bedroom

-What exactly to say if you’re not in the mood when your partner initiates sex

If you feel like you can’t talk about sex, if you can’t ask for what you want, don’t know how to bring it up, are going through a dry spell, or want to have more sex but you’re exhausted, this episode is for you. 

If you enjoyed this personal and practical episode, listen to this one next: How To Create Better Relationships: 6 Surprising Lessons From 28 Years Of Marriage

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In this episode:

• 3:11: Why You Should Stop Settling for Mediocre Sex.
• 5:56: Mel Personally Struggles with Sex Talk.
• 18:01: Chris’s Sex Questions & the Advice That Works
• 42:20: How to Take Responsibility for Your Pleasure.
• 47:04: The Simple Trick to Save Your Sex Life.
• 57:44: How to Unlock Deeper Intimacy with Your Partner.
• 1:02:15: A Sex Therapist’s 3 Tips for Better Sex.
• 1:17:51: Your Best Sex Starts Today.

Resources:

Vanessa Marin:

• Follow Vanessa on Instagram
• Subscribe to Vanessa on YouTube
• Visit Vanessa’s website
• Find Vanessa on TikTok
• Read Vanessa’s bestselling book, Sex Talks

‍Additional Resources:

• Baylor College of Medicine: Sexual Communication with a Partner
• The Guardian: 'Start low, and go slow': how to talk to your partner about sex
• Healthy Relationships California: Be a Better Partner: 6 Ways Scheduling Sex Can Help
• Contemporary Family Therapy: Time Spent Together in Intimate Relationships: Implications for Relationship Functioning
• Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy: The Female Sexual Response: A Different Model
• Cleveland Clinic: Sexual Response Cycle
• Frontiers in Psychology: Associations of Intimacy, Partner Responsiveness, and Attachment-Related Emotional Needs With Sexual Desire
• University of Pennsylvania Medicine: Can You Kiss and Hug Your Way to Better Health? Research Says Yes.
• Biological Psychology: More frequent partner hugs and higher oxytocin levels are linked to lower blood pressure and heart rate in premenopausal women
• VerywellMind: Feeling Touch Starved in Your Relationship? Here's What You Need to Know
• Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin: More Than Just Sex: Affection Mediates the Association Between Sexual Activity and Well-Being
• The Awareness Centre: What are the Effects of a Lack of Intimacy In a Relationship?
• Archives of Sexual Behavior: Strategies for Mitigating Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Relationships
• VerywellMind: Worried You and Your Partner Are Sexually Incompatible? Watch Out for These Signs
• Forbes: Reignite Sexual Passion In 3 Simple Ways, According To A Psychologist
• Healthline: 6 Types of Orgasms and How to Have One (or More!)
• The Journal of Sexual Medicine: Clitorally Stimulated Orgasms Are Associated With Better Control of Sexual Desire, and Not Associated With Depression or Anxiety, Compared With Vaginally Stimulated Orgasms
• HelpGuide.org: Reconnecting with Sex and Intimacy After Sexual Trauma
• Greater Good Magazine: What Playfulness Can Do for Your Relationship
• Northwest Family Clinics: Intimacy After Children