The Best Relationship Advice No One Ever Told You

In this episode, you’ll learn the truth about relationships that no one ever tells you.

Today, Mel and her husband Chris, who have been together for 30 years, are answering your biggest relationship questions and giving you their secret to a happy relationship.

Packed with fresh advice you never saw coming, Mel and Chris talk about how they learned these lessons the hard way, and share the relationship truths they wished they knew sooner to create a healthy romantic relationship.

Mel and Chris break down their relationship truths into small, actionable things you can do to make your relationship stronger today.  

These are the real conversations about love, resentment, and growth that most couples avoid. After today, you will know:

• How to handle resentment before it ruins your relationship
• What to do when one of you is growing and the other isn’t
• How to deal with pressure from your family and outside opinions
• The small habits that make relationships last
• The biggest mistake couples make without realizing it

Whether you're single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, this episode will change how you think about love.

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If you liked this episode, you’ll like hearing another episode from Mel and Chris: How To Create Better Relationships: 6 Surprising Lessons From 28 Years Of Marriage‍

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In this episode:

• 2:57: Secrets of a Happy Relationship.
• 4:34: The Million Dollar Question for All Couples.
• 6:20: Commitment vs. Compatibility in Your Relationship.
• 8:43: Mel’s Husband Went Sober, and This Happened.
• 13:15: What To Do If The Person You Are With Never Changes.
• 17:34: Skills For Healthy Relationships.
• 19:18: When Your Relationship Feels Off & Disconnected.
• 23:05: How to Set Better Boundaries With Your Partner.
• 33:03: If You Feel Like You Are Losing Your Purpose, Try This.
• 38:52: Why You Feel Disappointment in Your Relationship.
• 43:44: How to Handle Unmet Expectations With Your Partner.

‍Resources:

• Soul Degree: Chris’s Personal Development Program For Men
• The Huddle: Community For Men Looking To Reflect, Connect And Build More Meaningful Lives‍
• The Gottman Institute: Transforming Criticism Into Wishes: A Recipe For Successful Conflict‍
• Institute For Family Studies: For Most Couples Who Stay The Course, Marriage Gets Better With Time‍
• Stanford Health: When Partners Have Different Parenting Styles‍
• American Psychological Association: Can This Marriage Be Saved? ‍
• Cornell University: 3 Secrets To A Long Marriage – From Those Who Made It‍
• The Globe And Mail: How Do Long Marriages Survive? Couples Share The Secrets Of Their Long-Haul Unions‍
• Time Magazine: The Science Behind Happy Relationships‍
• UC Berkeley: When Are You Sacrificing Too Much In Your Relationship?‍
• Journal Of Personality And Social Psychology: Giving Up And Giving In: The Costs And Benefits Of Daily Sacrifice In Intimate Relationships.‍
• Behavioral Sciences: Refuting Six Misconceptions About Romantic Love‍
• Forbes: The Hard Truth About Boundaries And Self Care‍
• Greater Good Magazine: How Often Do Couples Express Compassion To Each Other?‍‍
• Harvard Business Review: How To Have Difficult Conversations‍‍
• Harvard Business Review: 4 Things To Do Before A Tough Conversation‍‍
• New York Times: The Best Relationship Advice We’ve Gotten So Far This Year‍‍
• John Hopkins University: 12 Elements Of Healthy Relationships ‍‍
• Harvard University: How To Let Your Purpose Find You