How to Stop Caring What People Think of You

Today, you’re going to learn the simple trick to stop caring what other people think.

If you find that you take things personally, worry what other people think about you, are scared of being judged, or find that you can’t stop overthinking, you’ll love this episode.

You’ll learn how to stop people-pleasing and start doing what is right for you.

Featured in today’s episode is Chrissy Teigen, who opens up about her own struggles with people-pleasing. Mel gives Chrissy the coaching session of a lifetime, and what they talk about together will resonate deeply with you.

This episode is both deeply personal and highly practical. You’ll learn:

• Why you care so much about what other people think.
• How to Let Them think bad thoughts about you.
• The tools you need to live your life on your own terms again.

Get ready to take back control of your life again and live it for yourself.

To listen to Chrissy Teigen’s new podcast on Audible, Self-Conscious with Chrissy Teigen, go to https://audible.com/chrissyandmel

Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory, which she mentions in this episode, here.

If you liked this personal, tactical, and relatable episode, listen to this one next: The One Tool to Transform Your Relationships: The Let Them Theory

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In this episode:

• 9:36: How your childhood shapes your self-esteem. 
• 13:21: Take back control from how others perceive you. 
• 21:51: Model self-acceptance for your loved ones.
• 28:14: Why you’re so hard on yourself. 
• 39:03: How to take charge of your self-worth.
• 46:43: Real-Life applications of The Let Them Theory.

‍Resources:

‍Chrissy Teigen:

• Listen to her podcast, Self-Conscious with Chrissy Teigen!
• Follow Chrissy on Instagram 
• Get a copy of Chrissy's cookbooks: Cravings, Cravings: Hungry for More, & Cravings: All Together!
• Discover new recipes, shop cookware, and Chrissy’s favorite baking mixes at Cravings by Chrissy Teigen

‍Featured Expert: Paul Conti, M.D.

• Listen to his full episode here
• Read Dr. Conti’s book, Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic
• Check out his website 
• Read his bio at Pacific Premier Group

‍Additional Resources:

• Harvard Business Review: How to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of You
• UC Davis: Research Review Shows Self-Esteem Has Long-Term Benefits
• Depression and Anxiety Journal: Childhood Social Environment, Emotional Reactivity to Stress, and Mood and Anxiety Disorders across the Life Course
• Nature: Effects of positive and negative self-talk on your brain
• NPR: Stop being so mean to yourself. Here are 5 tips to help you break the cycle
• British Journal of General Practice: Good enough is good enough
• Northern Illinois University: The Importance of Self-esteem
• Kidshealth.org: 9 Ways to Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem
• International Journal of Neuroscience: Harnessing neuroplasticity: modern approaches and clinical future
• International Journal of Clinical and Health Psychology: From fears of evaluation to social anxiety: The longitudinal relationships and neural basis in healthy young adults
• McLean Hospital: The Social Dilemma: Social Media and Your Mental Health
• The A.D.D. Resource Center: Confronting the Fear of Being Judged: A Step-by-Step Approach
• American Psychological Association: 10 tips for dealing with the stress of uncertainty
• Nature Communications: Confidence drives a neural confirmation bias‍
• Child Mind Institute: Social Media and Self-Doubt