The One Tool to Transform Your Relationships: The Let Them Theory

If there’s someone in your life you wish you were closer to, but it sometimes feels like there’s an unspoken tension between you, this episode is for you. 

Today, Mel sits down with her oldest daughter, Sawyer, for a raw and transformative conversation about repairing relationships and closing the invisible distance that so many of us feel with the people we love most.

Together, they share the story of how writing The Let Them Theory healed their relationship and reveal three powerful tools that can help you do the same.

Whether it’s with a sibling, a parent, an adult child, or your partner, this conversation is a gift—one that will help you let go of resentment, show up differently, and create the deeper connection you’ve been longing for. 

Get ready to finally have the relationship you’ve always wanted. 

Get the book: “The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About”

If you liked this personal episode, you’ll love this one, in which Mel and her husband Chris have a very candid conversation about their marriage of 28 years: How To Create Better Relationships: 6 Surprising Lessons From 28 Years Of Marriage

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In this episode:

• 3:55: How to unlock the power of Let Them to create stronger relationships.
• 9:23: Mel’s daughter Sawyer shares the key to healing their relationship.
• 14:55: How to heal and rebuild a parent-child relationship. 
• 21:29: How unspoken conflict can create emotional barriers in relationships.
• 27:39: Why we secretly hold grudges- and how they can bring us closer.
• 32:59: How Let Them saved Mel’s relationship with her daughter.
• 41:47: What writing a book taught Mel about reconnecting with her daughter.
• 51:32: Want to fix a broken relationship? Start with this simple mindset shift.
• 1:00:48: Mel reveals the undeniable truth: you can’t change someone else. 
• 1:06:21: How to break free from the cycle of trying to manage everything. 
• 1:13:23: The problem is the power you give to other people. 
• 1:20:41: This is keeping you from the happiness and success you deserve.
• 1:29:27: One tool that is the key to fixing your toughest relationships.
• 1:36:59: The secret to transforming your relationships and your life.

Resources:

• New York Times: When a Family Is Fractured
• Forbes: 3 Ways To ‘Stress-Proof’ Your Relationship—By A Psychologist
• Psychology Today: Bridging Relationship Distress
• Wondermind: 3 Things to Look for If You Want to Reconcile With Estranged Family
• University of Texas: How a Natural Disaster Can Bring Couples Closer
• Psychology Today: Weathering a Disaster Can Bring Couples Closer Together
• Association for Psychological Science: Experiencing a Natural Disaster Temporarily Boosts Relationship Satisfaction in Newlywed Couples
• Psychology Today: 4 Types of Relationship Silence and the Trouble They Cause
• Harvard Business School: The Power of Personal Connections: How Shared Experiences Boost Performance
• National Library of Medicine: How expectations impact our emotional health.
• Forbes: 3 Science-Backed Tips For Parents To Connect Better With Their Children
• Harvard University: Parent-Adult Child Relationship: Steps on How to Improve Your Relationship with Your Adult Children 
• Psych Central: Here’s why you feel the need to control everything.
• American Psychological Association: 10 tips for dealing with uncertainty.
• Psychology Today: The line between supporting and rescuing kids.