5 Signs of an Incompatible Relationship & 3 Signs You’ve Found “The One”

In this episode, you will learn the requirements of a good relationship – and the signs your relationship may not go the distance.

If you’re wondering if someone is “the one” and you’re not sure if you should end things, you’ll get the answer today.

And if you’re struggling through a rough patch in your relationship and want tools and tips on how to make it better, Mel is sharing that as well.

Today, you’re getting the skills you need for any healthy romantic relationship.

Whether you’re in the early stages of dating, committed for years, or simply curious about your compatibility, this episode will give you the tools to navigate love with confidence.

Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory, which she mentions in this episode.

If you liked this episode, and want to hear a very candid conversation with Mel and her husband Chris about their 28 year marriage, listen to this episode next: How To Create Better Relationships: 6 Surprising Lessons From 28 Years Of Marriage

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‍In this episode:

• 5:10: This common question can open the door to deeper understanding.
• 8:23: This hard truth you need to face sooner than later.
• 12:25: What compatibility really means—and how to find it—might surprise you. 
• 16:17: The 3 relationship mistakes you can turn into opportunities for growth.
• 22:19: The conversation you’ve been avoiding could set you free.
• 28:40: Is it just a difference of opinion or a dealbreaker? Know the signs.
• 35:50: Ask this 5 times to uncover the heart of any relationship issue.
• 41:30: The science of change: how to inspire the behavior you want in others.
• 50:33: This surprising stat will redefine what really matters in relationships.
• 55:31: If you’ve tried everything in your relationship, here’s your next powerful step.
• 59:45: It’s decision time: ask these honest questions to move forward with confidence.
• 1:06:31: The right choices often feel wrong—trust your gut.
• 1:11:37: Is the fear of change keeping you from seeing the truth about your relationship?

Resources:

• The Gottman Institute: How I Stopped Trying to Control My Partner and Took Responsibility for My Own Happiness
• International Journal of Mental Health and Addiction: The Lived Experience of Codependency: an Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis
• Forbes: 6 Questions To Understand Your 'Fear Of Being Single'
• The Gottman Institute: P is for Problems
• Neuron: The Value of Beliefs
• Nature Neuroscience: Confirmation bias in the utilization of others’ opinion strength
• Calm: Values in relationships: 7 core values for strong relationships
• Well + Good: What the Differences Between Chemistry and Compatibility Can Mean for Relationships
• Restorative Counseling: Strategies for Resolving Values Conflicts in Relationships
• The British Psychological Society: ‘Just because we are used to something, doesn’t make it OK’
• The Guardian: Readers reply: is there a way I can tell if a relationship is right for me?
• CNBC: 7 toxic signs of someone who is ‘addicted to drama,’ according to a psychologist—and how to respond
• BetterUp: How to ask open-ended questions
• Arizona Relationship Institute: How Self Esteem Plays a Role in Healthy Relationships‍
• Journal of Personality and Social Psychology: The Link Between Self-Esteem and Social Relationships: A Meta-Analysis of Longitudinal Studies