Episode: 164
Why You Care So Much About These 5 Things (and How to Stop)
a Solo Episode
Don’t let your life be controlled by these 5 things.
Mel reveals the 5 surprising things that you waste time and energy on right now.
You’ll be surprised by the sneaky things that are holding you back.
By the end of this episode, you’ll learn simple shifts to let go of control and make space for the things that matter most.
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Every time you get stressed about something you can’t control, you’re wasting time and energy that you need for the things in life that are actually important.
Mel Robbins
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Mel Robbins (00:00):
Why does this stupid stuff get to us? There's that one friend that's always late. You know that your roommate is not going to take the trash out. They haven't done it for a year, so why do you get upset when they don't do it? You know that your significant other is going to start snoring as soon as they fall asleep. So why am I trying to control this? And more importantly, why am I getting upset about it? You're wasting time and energy that you need for the things in life that are actually important. You're going to learn that there are five surprising things that you're wasting time and energy on right now, and these are things that you cannot control, but you act as if you can. Everybody does, but after today you won't.
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Hey, it's your friend. Mel, I am so glad that you're here with me today because we are going to jump into five things that are kind of surprising and they are taking up a lot of your mental and emotional energy and ain't nobody got time for that. You know what I'm saying? You need to know how are you going to get your time and energy back, and that's what we're going to talk about today.
Mel Robbins (01:05):
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The truth is, I'm so moved by your support of this podcast and what I'm doing that I am constantly racking my brain trying to figure out ways that I can take this beyond just you listening and watching, and I just want to do whatever I can to empower you to take risks and to make the changes that will make your life better because you mean the world to me and I want to prove it to you. I know I already show up here twice a week with new podcast episodes and every day on YouTube with a new video, but I want to give you more structured support as a true thank you, which brings me to this exciting gift that I have for you. It's a free two-part video training called Make It Happen. Now, I first announced this training and this gift on last week's podcast, and more than a hundred thousand of you have already signed up and received this gift and are in the training.
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Well, so is this training, you're going to want to share this because when you're surrounded by friends and family who are taking consistent, confident action and making big things happen, guess what? It helps you make big things happen in your life too. Cool. Awesome. Here's that link again, mel robbins.com/make it happen. Can't wait to see you in the training. Alrighty, now let's talk about those five things that are taken up way too much of your mental and emotional energy. Because here's the thing, when you're trying to control everything, you can't focus on anything that's truly important. And the first thing that I want you to stop wasting mental stress and energy on is the weather. You can't control the weather, but you can control whether or not it bothers you. Lemme give you an example. So I live in southern Vermont and it's April technically supposed to be spring up here.
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My daffodils and tulips are starting to poke through and come up and I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I put our winter coats awake. Well, guess what happened A few days ago? I woke up and there was freaking snow outside. Oh, here's the thing. Why would you waste any mental energy on that? Why cause stress? Why get frustrated? You can't control the weather. I mean, it would've been easy for me to pull open the shades and look outside and see my beautiful flower beds all covered with snow and then to start stressing out about whether or not the bulbs are all trashed and oh my gosh, I spent all those money in those bulbs now that they're not going to. But here's the thing, does stressing about it change anything? No. So why on earth do you and I let it affect us? Now, I know it can feel obvious hearing me say you can't control the weather because you can't.
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But if it's so obvious, why do we cause ourself mental distress? Why do we complain about it? Why do we spend time working ourselves up? I'm thinking right now about how much energy a bride or a groom burns through and an entire year as they think ahead and they worry about what the weather is going to be on their wedding day. Why do that? You can't control it. Once you have your plan A and your plan B, you're all set. So why even think about it? If it rains, it rains, but common sense isn't so common and the weather does control you.
Mel Robbins (06:28):
I mean, how many times have you canceled plans or bailed on a run because bad weather has affected you? And I'm not talking about a tsunami that's hitting or a situation that's dangerous. I'm talking about normal, predictable seasonal weather that you can expect you've let a light rain shower prevent you from going outside and going on that walk, haven't you?
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Yeah, the dog can let itself out. I'm not going out in that stuff. Or heaven forbid, when it's super humid that you leave the air conditioning in your house, you'll cancel plans like that unless you work for the weather channel, you waste way too much time thinking about it and being impacted by the weather. Here's what I want you to remember. A passing shower isn't going to kill you, so don't let it kill your plans. And it also passes when there's a cloudy or stormy day, and my friend Josh says this all the time, what's still up there above those stormy clouds, a bright, beautiful blue sky. Think about that moment on an airplane where you go through the clouds and then you get up above the clouds. What's always up there? A bright blue sky. Bad weather is actually an opportunity. It's an opportunity if you look at it the right way and you don't let it control you for you to practice discipline.
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In fact, there's a lot of science here that I want to share with you. Did you know that when you do things that you didn't want to do, like going outside for that walk even though it's raining the part of your brain that's called the anterior mid cingulate cortex gets bigger? And when researchers look at this part of your brain, they see it as the seat of willpower and not just willpower, but the actual will to live. And this is the only part of your brain that grows by doing things that you don't want to do. And so the weather isn't something for you to control and it's not something that should control what you're doing. The weather is an opportunity for you to grow. So the next time it rains, don't complain. Just do what you planned on doing. Go out on that run, take that hike, go work in the yard, go walk the dog.
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It's going to help you. It's actually an opportunity to take control of yourself, of your life, of your discipline, and for all you brides and grooms out there who are worried about the weather, the single best wedding that I was ever at was hit with this epic rain and hailstorm literally came out of nowhere. It was so big of a storm, one of those storms that comes across the Great Lakes in the Midwest that one of the tents flooded. Literally the top of it ripped open and waterfalled onto the dance floor. And to this day, Emily Glasser and Billy Sussman's wedding 30 years later is the single best wedding I have ever been to, the most memorable, the most fun. You want to know why? Not only because of the bride in the groom, but because of the storm. Maybe what your wedding needs is a good old fashioned rainstorm and maybe what you need is to learn how to run in the rain because you're bigger than the weather.
Mel Robbins (09:42):
So stop complaining about it because you can't control it. And that snow, by the way, it's cold and tulips actually love cold weather and they bloom longer when it's cold. So there's no reason to complain. I should be celebrating about it because you can control whether or not that weather bothers you or stops you from doing what you need to do. And now that you know that you're going to not let that happen anymore. So let's move on to the second surprising thing that you're wasting time and energy on. And that is you cannot control the amount of time that you're forced to wait in line, but you can control what you do with your time while you're waiting. Let's go to an example involving traffic. I want you to think about sitting in your car, you're driving to work and boom, all of a sudden you hit traffic.
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You may be sitting in traffic right now as you listen to me and as you're in traffic, you start to get frustrated. You kind of grip the wheel and then you hem and you haw and you tense up and you kind of hit the GPS and you I should. Why do you do that? By the time that you get to work, you're so exhausted because you worked yourself up. You just burned through so much energy in the car being angry that traffic was backed up and delayed. Did any of that anger and stress help you get to work faster? Of course not. Did it move the traffic? No. Did it free up a lane? No. This is why it's so dumb to allow things that you can't control to impact you. Or let's take another example. You're waiting in line at the post office. You got your arms full of packages that you need to return.
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It's two 15. The line is so long you are out there on your lunch break. You're like, oh, should I stay? Should I not? So now you've committed to staying in line and all of a sudden there's somebody at the front and they're taking so long. Do you want insurance with this package, honey? And you're like, oh my God, are you kidding me with this? And you're now starting to get irritated. Do you need some stamps while you're here? Oh my God, are they really going to buy stamps right now? We've all had these moments. Oh, and then all of a sudden you get close and what does the clerk do? Oh, I got to go on my lunch break. Let me get somebody to fill in. And you're like, oh. And these feelings of irritation and frustration, they rise up. Why? Because you feel like you're losing control of your time.
Mel Robbins (12:00):
You thought this was going to take five minutes, 15 minutes have passed by. I get it. You got somewhere to be. You got to get back to work. You squeeze this in on your lunch break and now your lunch break is evaporating before your eyes. We've all been there. You can't control when you're going to be forced to wait in line, but you can control what you do with your time while you're waiting. What if you were to look at this not as some sort of slight by society or the post office or traffic? What if you were to look at this as found time and set of lost time? Maybe this is just the universe giving you time back. I mean, let's go back to the traffic example again. You're driving along and all of a sudden things slow way down as everybody merges into a one lane road and guess what's right in front of you?
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A truck of course. And so you're winding and you're going slower. And in that moment, can you control what's happening? No.
Mel Robbins (13:03):
And there's no use to get yourself all stressed out or cause yourself some sort of distress in your mind or start freaking out about it. And there's this great post that's gone really viral that talks about this exact moment when you get stuck behind a truck on a one lane road and you're forced to slow down, it's a cue to yourself that this truck is sent by a guardian angel. It's slowing you down on purpose to avoid whatever is around the corner or at your destination or maybe somewhere along the way that's not meant for you or that may cause you harm. Do you see how that now puts you into control? So as you slow down, sip your coffee and look at this as an opportunity to be grateful for this time and to practice having patience.
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And if it's at nighttime and this happens, just imagine that this truck is running point for you lighting up the way. Isn't that a beautiful way to take control? Because you can't control the times where life slows you down, but you can control what you do with that time. And when you look at it like a gift, you take the control back and there's so many things you could do. You could turn on Rosetta Stone, one of the sponsors of this podcast and listen to that French lesson that you started, but you haven't had time to finish or you could call a friend. This is one of my favorite things to do when I'm driving hands free and just talk to somebody while you're driving behind that guardian angel truck. You could start to see this as not lost time, but time that's been given back to you as an opportunity.
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You can even do this at the post office. So let's go back to the line at the post office instead of standing there getting frustrated and flustered, which only makes you feel like you're losing control, it only makes the time go by faster. What if you use this found time and you take a moment to text someone that you've been thinking about just to say Hi. One goal of mine this year is to be more closely connected to my family so I could use that time waiting in line as a sign from the universe that I just gained a moment to reach out to my nephews. They were in a water polo tournament all weekend long and I want to congratulate them on their wins. How cool is that? Or have an audio book or a podcast like this one queued up so that you got something that is your go-to in those moments because you can't control the time when you're going to be forced to slow down or to wait, but you can control what you do with your time while you're waiting.
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So make something important happen. That's what you can control, even if what you make happen in those moments is just practice staying calm or being in the moment or practicing gratitude. And the more that you do that, the more you'll realize how much time and energy you do have at your disposal to use in small and big ways, and you know what else you have in your control, whether or not it bothers you. When I take a quick pause to go to break and give a little air time to our sponsors who bring this podcast you at zero costs. So don't you go anywhere. I know you want to know these three other things that you can't control and trust me, the next one is a real doozy. Stay with me. Hey, it's your friend Mel, and I've been thinking it's time that you and I take our relationship to the next level.
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Welcome back. It's your friend Mel, and we're talking about five surprising things that waste a lot of your time and energy and how to take your control back. And so I now want to talk about the third thing that you cannot control that is taking up a lot of your mental and emotional energy. You cannot control the headlines, but you can control your headspace. Mel, what are you talking about? Well, let me tell you, there's a big difference between being informed about what's going on and getting inundated with things that are beyond your control, that stress you out and freak you out. And I'll tell you something. I used to be really stupid when it came to social media because I was passive and I'm going to explain what that means. Whatever it was, the social media or the mass media platform was serving up, I was just taking it in.
Mel Robbins (18:15):
Oh yeah, just serve it up to me. Whatever headlines were on the news, that was what was filling my headspace. Whatever was dropping into my social media feeds, that was what I was focused on. I'm here to tell you something enough with that. It's time to take control. You have to get proactive. Do not be passive about social media. You are handing your attention, which is one of your most precious commodities away for free as if it's nothing. This is how you waste so much time and cause yourself so much stress. If you don't take control of this, your Instagram feed is going to start looking like the home shopping network. You know what I'm talking about? TikTok will become nothing but celebrity news and influencers.
Mel Robbins (19:00):
And if you find yourself mindlessly watching 34 hours of television, which based on a recent study is the average amount of time that Americans watch TV per week, and I think I just heard all of you listening in the other 193 countries where this show is syndicated, go Americans. Well, you also spend time mindlessly watching TV and your attention is the single most important commodity that you have. And so I want to inspire you to get super proactive about where you direct it regardless of how much time you're spending watching TV or wasting it on social media. I mean, those 34 hours could be directed at something that's important, something that matters, something that's going to make your life better and something that you want to make happen instead of just mindlessly passively giving it away. That's time you could use to get your masters. You could use that to launch a side business. You could use that to get serious about healing past trauma or learning how to be happier. Heck, just get to the gym, learn how to cook. Let me ask you something. What's something that you would love to make happen in your life?
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Are you being proactive about your time and your attention? I mean, just imagine what would happen if you got super proactive about using social media to help you get what you want. This goes so far beyond common sense. In fact, researchers have found that people who use social media passively to browse content from other people are more likely to experience anxiety, depression, and stress. This is from a new study out of the UK that was published in the Journal of Behavior and Information Technology. And the same study found that if you're proactive about social media, meaning you create and share your own content without engaging passively on content with others and doom scrolling all the time, it has a positive impact, especially on your stress levels.
Mel Robbins (21:00):
It is so easy to make social media or the news outlets, the villain in your life, but that just gives social media and the news all the power. You keep the power because you're in control of how you use these things, and I want you to start using them for good by getting proactive and figuring out how you can take control of this, it will support you in making important things happen in your own life because it can. So how do you do that? I remember about nine years ago when I was first really getting into the media business, I started following Gary Vaynerchuk and I'll tell you what, his content was so different than anyone else's because something came alive inside of me and it became the content that I started engaging with and it inspired me to start being more proactive about posting more content instead of just sitting there wasting time, feeling jealous and just getting stressed out and procrastinating on social media. And so you can choose who you follow because remember, you can't control the headlines, but you can control your headspace.
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And you do that by getting very proactive about who has access to you and who doesn't. And I know you want to do that because you made the choice to listen to this podcast, a podcast that can help you create a better life. So do that with your social media accounts, unfollow accounts that make you feel bad and start following people and accounts proactively that make you feel great about yourself, that inspire you to get proactive and start taking action in your own life. And by the way, whoever you think is spending way too much time on social media or follows a ton of influencers or celebrities or accounts that make them feel bad or you're worried about 'em, send them this episode because if they won't listen to you or they don't really think about it this way, maybe listening to this conversation will inspire them to take their attention and time seriously.
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It'll help them not only think differently but act differently in this area of your life. And if you're listening to this right now because your friend or your mom or your dad or somebody that loves you sent you this episode, I want to tell you something, you are capable of creating amazing things in your life. Take your time seriously. Guard your attention like a hawk and get proactive. Stop being so damn passive with social media. Get proactive. You're learning about the five things that you can't control, that waste your time and energy, and this is a huge one that does. And when you start directing your time and energy to the things that you can, like how you're using social media, who gets your attention, how you engage with it, holy cow, your stress is going to lower. You're going to get more time back, your life is going to change.
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And we are just into the first three. We're going to take a quick break to hear a word from our sponsors. I'm going to get proactive about this. And while you're listening, take a minute and share this episode to the person who needs to hear it. And when we come back, I'm going to be waiting for you after a break. We've got two more things that we're going to cover, and these are the most important in my opinion because these are the two most profound, surprising places where you're wasting time and energy and where I want you to learn how to take control. Stay with me. Oh my God, it's spring in Vermont. I'm ready to make something happen. Aren't you awesome? Let's spring into action because action's the answer. You don't need motivation. You need to know how to make it happen. My free training this year is about execution.
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Mel Robbins (25:27):
Welcome back, you and I are talking about the five things that are stealing time and energy from you and how to take control and get your power back so that you can focus your time and energy on what really matters. We're on number four, and here is the fourth thing that you cannot control. You can't control the past, but you can control what you do in the present moment to help you move past it. No amount of regret is going to change the past. So all the time that you spend looking back and beating yourself up, it's just creating unnecessary emotional and mental distress. Yeah, you should look back and learn the lessons that you need to learn, but when it comes to the things that you truly regret, or in my case cringe, when you think about from your past, the best apology to other people and the most powerful form of forgiveness for yourself is a change in behavior.
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Now when you change, you have proven that you've learned the lesson and you've moved on and you've become a better you. And here's how you can do that. Make a decision today to start living your life in a way that makes you feel proud of yourself because it'll prove that you're no longer that person that you were in the past. Every single moment that you're looking backwards is wasted and it keeps you from moving forward. The only way to move on from the things that you regret is to move forward. That's how I did it. I mean, there are entire decades that I regret about my life. If you listen to the episode about the lessons from my twenties, you heard about a lot of those regrets.
Mel Robbins (27:08):
But I'm really proud of who I've become and what I'm doing in my present life. That's why I don't waste any time and energy looking backward at the past. And you can do the same thing. You can use the present moment to free yourself from the regrets you have in the past sitting there and thinking about what you did wrong or what you wish you had or hadn't done, doesn't do anything but make you feel bad. You can't control the past, but you can control what you do in the present moment to help you move past it. And here's how you're going to do that. First, would you give yourself more credit because you're not the same person that you were in the past? I mean, look at you. Heck, look at me for crying out loud. I'm no longer that anxiety ridden toxic person that I was in college back then. I had no idea what trauma was that I was affected by it, that I had experienced it. I had no idea that I had a DHD or anxiety.
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I'd never been to therapy. I didn't even know how much I was actually suffering. I just thought I was completely screwed up. I'm not that person anymore. And you're not the person you used to be either. So stop looking backwards. Look in the mirror, look at the person you are today and please give yourself more credit. The second thing I want you to do is ask yourself this, starting today, what changes do you need to make that would make you really proud of yourself? Maybe you need to get up earlier. Maybe today is the day you quit vaping. Or maybe it's bringing a more positive and optimistic mood to your family or to your roommates or to your colleagues at work. You can control what you do in the present moment and who you become, and
Mel Robbins (28:54):
That's what helps you move past the things that you regret. Changing today proves that you're no longer the person that you used to be. And so starting today, I want you to make the most of your life moving forward. That's how you make big things happen. That's how you create a better future.
Mel Robbins (29:13):
And the final thing is that you can't control, but it costs you a lot of time and energy. The future, you can't control the future, but you will create it by what you do in the present. The future hasn't happened yet, so you might as well stop worrying about what's going to happen right now. Stop worrying and stressing and being anxious about your future. It is a complete waste of your time. You need to be worried about what you're doing today. Besides I can tell you what's going to happen to the future. I can tell you who you're going to be in six months from today based on your habits, your friend group, and the social media that you consume right now.
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That's how important the present is. See, what you're doing today has a bigger impact on the next six months than any amount of worry or anxiety could ever have. So if you're sitting there worried about your parents dying like so many of you are, have you called them today? If you're sitting there worried about what you're going to look like on your summer vacation, have you exercised today? Today you're worried about retiring? Have you even done a budget instead of watching other people's YouTube channels? Today could be the day you start yours and you make it happen. Instead of wishing the weight would magically fall off by your vacation, today could be the day you make a plan and make it happen instead of hoping that you'll get a promotion in the future. Today could be the day that you schedule a meeting with your supervisor about what you need to do in order to make that happen in the next six months.
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See, the next six months are coming whether you do something different or not. And I'm here to tell you, you don't need to worry about your future because your day-to-day life already predicts what it's going to look like. So unless you start doing something different today, we already know what's going to happen. So stop worrying, stop feeling anxious and let's get proactive. Let's define what you want and then let's make it happen. Let's get started today. And you know what? I'd like to help you do that. I mentioned this at the top, but now let me tell you a little bit more about this brand new free training for you because getting started and taking action and being proactive, that's what I'm going to teach you to do. That's why I designed this training called Make It Happen because it is easy to talk about what you want to do. It's hard to actually do it, and nothing in your life is going to change until you start taking action and you make it change.
Mel Robbins (31:40):
And I have already said this, but it bears repeating. I am so moved by your support of this podcast that I am constantly trying to go beyond just having you listen or watching an experience with me. I really do mean it. I don't want you to waste any more time and energy on these five stupid things. I want to do whatever I can to empower you to direct your attention and your time and your energy toward things that matter. I want you to take risks and make the changes that make your life better. And I don't care where you're listening to me right now or what you're facing. The fact is you can make amazing things happen right now. You're part of a global community of listeners, of people that are doing amazing things.
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Your fellow listeners are winning Emmys for their work on shows like Bridger. They're launching YouTube channels, they're finishing their manuscripts, they're getting their first book published. They're creating life after divorce. They're losing a hundred pounds. They're moving across the world and taking that trip and making big risks. And you've heard me say this, if you can define it, you can make it happen if you're willing to work for it. And now five things that are beyond your control that are a waste of your time and energy. You want to know what is never a waste of your time and energy, your own self-improvement, your own goals, your own dreams. And that's why this new two-part training is going to guide you in defining what you want and making it happen. I don't want you to waste your life being passive. Let's get proactive. Don't waste 34 hours a week watching tv.
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- Fast Company: Why it’s so hard to pay attention, explained by science
- National Library of Medicine: The tenacious brain: How the anterior midcingulate contributes to achieving goals
- Harvard Business Review: You’ll feel less rushed if you give time away
- Bournemouth University: Research on social media
- Study: Social media use, loneliness and psychological distress in emerging adults
- Nielsen: Connectivity is driving how Americans are engaging with TV
- The Mel Robbins Podcast: The “Let Them Theory”: A Life-Changing Mindset Hack that 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About
- The Mel Robbins Podcast: 6 Ways to Use My “Let Them” Theory to Improve Any Relationship
- The Mel Robbins Podcast: How to Let Go: 2 Simple Ways to Find Clarity & Move On
- The Mel Robbins Podcast: 3 Ways to Brainwash Yourself for Success & A More Meaningful Life
- Mel’s new free training: Make It Happen
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